Self care is something that is everywhere at the moment, and rightly so! I am always talking or writing about it. I read regular posts and articles about it The Blurt Foundation are an excellent example of self care advocates. I am always checking in with friends that they are making time for it in their lives and I do try to incorporate into mine too.
So why? Whats the big deal all of a sudden?
Well I think it’s simply that we have begun to realise how important time out for ourselves really is. It not only helps us recharge our batteries physically but mentally as well.
For some self care comes more easily, they are great at taking time out to get their hair done, read a book, spend time doing a hobby, which is fab but for many others it is not as easy.
I for one am probably the worlds worst. I will always find something that ‘needs’ to be done for someone else before I even consider spending anytime on me. I have always been the same. Even on those rare occasions that I do finally do something for myself I feel so guilty about it that I spend the next few hours or days doing extra for others to try and justify it and make myself feel better! Bonkers!
Another thing about self care is that it’s unique to you. It’s your time doing what you want or feel up to doing.
When I was very ill in hospital I remember the staff talking about self care and telling us all what we ‘should’ be doing. I was told to eat three meals a day, have a shower every morning and play with my son. Easy peasy right? Well, yes now it is as I am in a very different place but right then at that moment in the depths of anorexia and depression I couldn’t think of anything more impossible. So I was made to feel like a failure. I couldn’t do these simple things I was being told I ‘should’ be able to do. So I felt worse and did even less as I thought “What’s the point?!”
Now if I had been advised to just try and have a shower and focus on one good meal or even eat at all then I might have felt it was achievable and something I could possible do right. Subsequently building up my confidence and making me feel better.
I think the important message is that self care doesn’t have to be huge tasks or elaborate hobbies it can simply be a cup of tea and a read of a magazine. Trying to drink more water or even having a wash and brushing your teeth. There should certainly not be pressure or stress surrounding the idea of self care. It’s time out for you to recharge. You know You best. What would you love to do that you know would make you feel a little better?
I have created a free infographic that you can click here to view or print for free, with some smaller ideas and then some more adventurous ones depending on where you are in your journey.
If you have any other ideas I would love to hear them.
Love Amy x