So I have reached 16 weeks into my pregnancy. But how is my mental health? How do I feel?
For those of you that read my blog you will know that I am honest, very honest about what I am going through and this post is no different. Far too many women are afraid to voice how they really feel during pregnancy for fear of being judged. There is this idea that women, all women, should love being pregnant and they should be joyful and full of excitement the whole time. And although this may happen for some expectant mothers it is certainly not always the case.
At 16 weeks I feel – weird!
This post ’10 cheap or free things to do with kids – that don’t involve T.V’ is a little different to my usual posts but still important I think.
The summer holidays can wreak havoc with your mental health if you’re not careful. Not only having the usual routine completely out of the window but the anxiety and stress of having the kids around ALL THE TIME! I love spending extra time with H but I need to get organised to ensure I don’t get overwhelmed or try and take on too much.
Another factor to consider about summer holidays is the financial implications of having kids home for 6/7 weeks. It’s has been proven that money worries have seriously negative effects on people who suffer with their mental health, and I can completely relate to this. That is why I thought this post was an important one. Showing you how you can arrange and enjoy time in the holidays without going into debt or constantly worrying about money.
When you have a mental illness you fight every day. Whether it’s depression, an eating disorder, anxiety you are always fighting.
People will often say to me:
“It’s nice to see you all better now”
“I’m so glad you’re over all that.”
“When you HAD depression ….”
It’s like it was a small blip in life that has disappeared and doesn’t need to be discussed again.
Mental health in general seems to be everywhere at the moment – which is great. I have also noticed that there has been a big increase in the talk around men and boy’s mental health. Fantastic. About time.
Did you know that the biggest killer in men under 45 is suicide!?
This is absolutely shocking!
It’s funny but out of every post I have written this is one of the ones I am most nervous of posting.
I have written some painfully honest posts that a lot of people have told me are very difficult to read and have in a lot of cases have made them cry. But I continue to write. Why? Well it’s simple, because I know it is helping. It’s helping me yes but I know from the amazing messages I receive that it is helping other people out there who are struggling as well.
So that brings me to today’s post. Mental health and pregnancy.
I am pregnant.
For those of you that follow me on social media you will know how excited we are about it. Especially H who is over the moon about being a big brother!
On Saturday 1st July I held a charity event for Mind the mental health charity. It was a charity football match with Raffle, tombola, face painting and bouncy castles. I am happy to report that it was a huge success.
Borderline personality disorder is a very tough diagnosis. The name itself suggests that you have a broken personality. Usually you are misdiagnosed with Bipolar disorder or not diagnosed at all and just seen as difficult.
It’s difficult to live with BPD not only because of the awful symptoms that plague you every day but also because of the lack of understanding and stigma that exists around it. With my blog I am to dispel myths and create more of an understanding around BPD and what it is really like to live with.
Today I am asking the question – Is it ok to be an introvert?
As you probably know I am in therapy for my mental health issues. Psychotherapy. Its a group therapy and sometimes it’s very tough. Last week was particularly tough and I was hit pretty hard by a conversation that only happened in the last 20 minutes of the group.
A member was attempting to convince the psychologist that she is not lonely and that she does see people and socialise. She attends groups and sees family and friends regularly. I jokingly said “You have a better social life than me!” To which the psychologist turned her attention to me and said “So Amy, who do you see in the week?” I quickly answered “No one” but the moment those words passed my lips I felt different!
My blog is based on my life living with mental health issues. I have written individual blogs on my struggles with BPD, anorexia and anxiety but I have never really spoken much about my experience of depression.
Depression seems to be everywhere at the minute. Celebrities are confessing to their struggles on an almost daily basis. Which is great, yes. It’s raising much needed awareness but with all of this I kind of thought I didn’t need to.
My favourite quotes.
I am a great believer in doing whatever you need to do to make you happy.
Who cares if no one else likes it! Who cares if it’s deemed ‘different’! If it’s safely making you feel better then who cares about what others think! Do what you need to do.
I LOVE positive and inspirational quotes! I have for years. They are the kind of things that once I’ve read it they will instantly change my inner rhythm. If I am feeling low or down just by reading an inspirational quote can make me feel much more positive. Whats not to love!