You may have already seen on my other social media channels but I wanted to share with you my very exciting news …..
We are having another boy!
Mental illnesses effects your mind, of course, we all know that but it doesn’t just leave you feeling down, sad or low in mood, it can also effect your concentration and your memory. This can leave you feeling worse and that you are a failure or can’t cope with simple day to day things. I know this is true for me.
I have written before about pregnancy, pre and post pregnancy with my son and my current journey at the moment. I have been honest about how I am coping and how it is ok not to love every single second of being pregnant – and I still stand by that!
But sometimes in pregnancy you really do fancy a glass of wine or bubbles or like me are a total caffeine addict who can’t function without at least 6 cups of tea or coffee! Without your favourite things you do start to feel a bit fed up at times – I believe it’s totally OK to say this too!
When things start to get busy or life gets tough self care seems to be the first thing to go. I’ve written this post, 25 self care ideas I have used, to hopefully help with that.
Self care for me was always seen as self indulgent and selfish. Why would I think it’s ok for me to relax or have some ‘me’ time if there are jobs to be done?!
Something about it just didn’t sit right with me and I do still struggle at times now. If I had the choice of working, doing housework or helping someone else vs self care, I would almost always chose to work.
Over the past few years I have been to hell and back and really have hit (and lived at) rock bottom. Self care is something I have had to learn – albeit very slowly – is an absolute necessity!
I really like the quote “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Which is so true. How can you expect to keep on giving and giving if you have nothing left in you!? You need time to recharge.
I have high functioning depression and I have suffered with mental health issues most of my life. But when I finally gained the confidence to begin talking about it and telling others I had it, I was more often than not met with comments such as
“Wow I would never have known!”
This is part of the difficulty for people living with high functioning depression and often why they are not believed or misunderstood.
So I have reached 16 weeks into my pregnancy. But how is my mental health? How do I feel?
For those of you that read my blog you will know that I am honest, very honest about what I am going through and this post is no different. Far too many women are afraid to voice how they really feel during pregnancy for fear of being judged. There is this idea that women, all women, should love being pregnant and they should be joyful and full of excitement the whole time. And although this may happen for some expectant mothers it is certainly not always the case.
At 16 weeks I feel – weird!
This post ’10 cheap or free things to do with kids – that don’t involve T.V’ is a little different to my usual posts but still important I think.
The summer holidays can wreak havoc with your mental health if you’re not careful. Not only having the usual routine completely out of the window but the anxiety and stress of having the kids around ALL THE TIME! I love spending extra time with H but I need to get organised to ensure I don’t get overwhelmed or try and take on too much.
Another factor to consider about summer holidays is the financial implications of having kids home for 6/7 weeks. It’s has been proven that money worries have seriously negative effects on people who suffer with their mental health, and I can completely relate to this. That is why I thought this post was an important one. Showing you how you can arrange and enjoy time in the holidays without going into debt or constantly worrying about money.
People will often say to me:
“It’s nice to see you all better now”
“I’m so glad you’re over all that.”
“When you HAD depression ….”
It’s like it was a small blip in life that has disappeared and doesn’t need to be discussed again.