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BPD – The positives

I thought I would take the time to blog about the positives that come with BPD.

BPD is always seen as a negative and pretty awful diagnosis. I’m not saying that it’s a walk in the park or easy by any means I just thought it was important to shake things up and focus on those positives.

There were times that I would wish and pray that someone could just take this diagnosis away and that it would never have entered my life and darkened my door. Now however, I do think a little differently.

I don’t wish I never had BPD. Without it I wouldn’t be me! I wouldn’t be were I am today. I wouldn’t have the amazing people I now have in my life. There are definitely aspects of it that I wish wouldn’t be so severe but I am learning to look at the positives and be thankful.

bpd positives

Having BPD means I am;

  • Extremely passionate – I feel all emotions to the very fullest. This does mean that I feel lows that are intense and debilitating at times but it also means I can feel the highs to the fullest as well. I feel extreme happiness and excitement and love intensely. This is something that most people will never get to experience. So I’ve got to be thankful for that!
  • Very curious – I am literally the modern day Jessica Fletcher! It drives my husband a little crazy but I can’t help it. I don’t see things at face value. I dig and delve into any situation to get the truth and the facts. I see this as a positive be being curious like this makes me very interested. Whether it be in a person or event I will question and be genuinely interested. I’m eager to learn and know more that includes learning new things.
  • Empathetic and loving – I think because I have felt what it’s like not to feel a strong sense of love towards me I never want anyone to feel the same. If I speak to someone having a tough time I will instantly be able to put myself in their shoes and try my hardest to make them feel better. I want to be able to make people happy . I want to enrich peoples lives and look after them. I will always put others first and I believe this is a huge positive in life.
  • Loyal – Again this is not something I have really had a sense of in my life so I really want to ensure that people around me feel a sense of loyalty from me and know I will always be there for them no matter what. I feel this is a great positive attribute. Being that person that others can count on.

bpd positives

  • Creative – I am definitely a very creative person. I have always loved art and creativity. I used it as a form of enjoyment absolutely but over the past few years it has been a form of therapy. I would draw, paint and create things I felt unable to say. Helping family members understand what I was feeling and going through.   Writing is now my favourite form of being creative and I write every single day helping people all around the globe! I love it and I need it.
  • Selfless and strong – This is a difficult one as I often don’t believe I am either of these things. But being in a ‘good’ place at the moment enables me to think clearly and logically and I can say I am selfless and I am strong. I mentioned before about putting peoples needs before my own and this is something I have always done and I believe will always do. What a great trait to possess. I believe so anyway. Strength is something I’ve had to have in abundance throughout my life. I have had to have strength to might the illness I live with. I have had to have the strength to continue with live as a wife, daughter, friend, mother. I have had to have the strength to survive when my mind desperately wants to die.

Boarderline Personality Disorder isn’t exactly a blessing but it certainly isn’t the awful curse that I once thought it was and I certainly don’t wish I never had it.

I have really enjoyed writing this post and focusing on the positives I have and am because of my BPD.

Stay strong,

Lots of love

Amy xx

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3 Comments

  • Reply AK

    Hi Amy 🙂 I just wanted to say how much I loved reading this. I have BPD too and the negatives seem to always dominate over the positives. But you’re so right. We are amazingly strong and kind people. No matter how much we don’t want to believe that sometimes. Wishing you love and peace in your recovery.

    xx

    February 2, 2017 at 10:31 am
    • Reply amysboarderlineworld

      Hi there Alison. Thank you for your kind message. We are absolutely strong and kind – and so much more. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Lots of love to you x

      February 2, 2017 at 10:37 am
  • Reply LM

    Thanks for this list, Amy. There is so much negativity out there when it comes to BPD and I have been trying lately to become more focused on the positive.

    August 30, 2017 at 3:14 am
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