I have written before about pregnancy, pre and post pregnancy with my son and my current journey at the moment. I have been honest about how I am coping and how it is ok not to love every single second of being pregnant – and I still stand by that!
But sometimes in pregnancy you really do fancy a glass of wine or bubbles or like me are a total caffeine addict who can’t function without at least 6 cups of tea or coffee! Without your favourite things you do start to feel a bit fed up at times – I believe it’s totally OK to say this too!
When things start to get busy or life gets tough self care seems to be the first thing to go. I’ve written this post, 25 self care ideas I have used, to hopefully help with that.
Self care for me was always seen as self indulgent and selfish. Why would I think it’s ok for me to relax or have some ‘me’ time if there are jobs to be done?!
Something about it just didn’t sit right with me and I do still struggle at times now. If I had the choice of working, doing housework or helping someone else vs self care, I would almost always chose to work.
Over the past few years I have been to hell and back and really have hit (and lived at) rock bottom. Self care is something I have had to learn – albeit very slowly – is an absolute necessity!
I really like the quote “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Which is so true. How can you expect to keep on giving and giving if you have nothing left in you!? You need time to recharge.
I have high functioning depression and I have suffered with mental health issues most of my life. But when I finally gained the confidence to begin talking about it and telling others I had it, I was more often than not met with comments such as
“Wow I would never have known!”
This is part of the difficulty for people living with high functioning depression and often why they are not believed or misunderstood.
Suicide has been in the media a lot over the past few years, particularly very recently with some amazing, talented, seemingly ‘happy’ celebrities taking their own lives. But suicide is still hugely misunderstood.
Last week marked my little boys last day of preschool and first day of the summer holidays. He is going up to primary school in September – where on earth does the time go!? I am feeling a little overwhelmed by it all to be honest. The ending, the beginning, the time off…
So I have reached 16 weeks into my pregnancy. But how is my mental health? How do I feel?
For those of you that read my blog you will know that I am honest, very honest about what I am going through and this post is no different. Far too many women are afraid to voice how they really feel during pregnancy for fear of being judged. There is this idea that women, all women, should love being pregnant and they should be joyful and full of excitement the whole time. And although this may happen for some expectant mothers it is certainly not always the case.
At 16 weeks I feel – weird!
This post ’10 cheap or free things to do with kids – that don’t involve T.V’ is a little different to my usual posts but still important I think.
The summer holidays can wreak havoc with your mental health if you’re not careful. Not only having the usual routine completely out of the window but the anxiety and stress of having the kids around ALL THE TIME! I love spending extra time with H but I need to get organised to ensure I don’t get overwhelmed or try and take on too much.
Another factor to consider about summer holidays is the financial implications of having kids home for 6/7 weeks. It’s has been proven that money worries have seriously negative effects on people who suffer with their mental health, and I can completely relate to this. That is why I thought this post was an important one. Showing you how you can arrange and enjoy time in the holidays without going into debt or constantly worrying about money.
When you have a mental illness you fight every day. Whether it’s depression, an eating disorder, anxiety you are always fighting.
People will often say to me:
“It’s nice to see you all better now”
“I’m so glad you’re over all that.”
“When you HAD depression ….”
It’s like it was a small blip in life that has disappeared and doesn’t need to be discussed again.
Mental health in general seems to be everywhere at the moment – which is great. I have also noticed that there has been a big increase in the talk around men and boy’s mental health. Fantastic. About time.
Did you know that the biggest killer in men under 45 is suicide!?
This is absolutely shocking!
It’s funny but out of every post I have written this is one of the ones I am most nervous of posting.
I have written some painfully honest posts that a lot of people have told me are very difficult to read and have in a lot of cases have made them cry. But I continue to write. Why? Well it’s simple, because I know it is helping. It’s helping me yes but I know from the amazing messages I receive that it is helping other people out there who are struggling as well.
So that brings me to today’s post. Mental health and pregnancy.
I am pregnant.
For those of you that follow me on social media you will know how excited we are about it. Especially H who is over the moon about being a big brother!